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Trial Course for Female Subs: Introduction into Submission and Masochism
Discover Yourself as a Female Sub – Safe, Sensitive & Professional
Your First Experience with Submission, Bondage and Masochism
Curious about BDSM, bondage, slavery or masochism? This is a safe and welcoming place to explore your first experiences. Whether you’re simply curious or have carried these fantasies for years, you can discover them at your own pace, without pressure or expectations.
Every session is personal, discreet and tailored to your boundaries. Together we’ll explore what excites you, what feels right and where your limits are. There is nothing you have to prove. Just bring your curiosity.
Are You a Submissive, Slave, Masochist or Devotee?
BDSM includes many different terms that can seem confusing at first. In reality, the basic ideas are quite simple. The first distinction is between a Dom (Dominant) and a Sub (Submissive). You may also hear the terms Top and Bottom. A submissive voluntarily surrenders control to a Dominant, just as a Bottom submits to a Top during a scene.
During a BDSM scene, a submissive may choose to hand over control to the Dominant. Depending on the dynamic, this can range from a temporary exchange of power to a symbolic transfer of ownership. In your introductory session, however, you decide the boundaries. Before we begin, we’ll discuss what feels right for you, what doesn’t, and what you’d like to explore. A safeword allows you to pause or stop the session at any time.
A slave relationship is different. While the experiences may appear similar, slaves often choose to surrender a much greater level of responsibility and may agree to play without a safeword. In the SubWelt, however, safety always comes first. Even if you book a slave training session, a safeword will always be available.
There is also an important difference between sadism and masochism. A sadist enjoys giving pain, while a masochist may find erotic pleasure, sexual excitement or fulfillment in receiving it. At SubWelt, we stay firmly within the realm of pleasurable pain. Where that boundary lies is different for every woman, and together we’ll discover what feels exciting, enjoyable and right for you.
You may also discover that pain itself is not what fascinates you. Perhaps what draws you in is surrender, service, letting go, or the feeling of being guided by someone you trust. If that’s the case, you may be more devoted than masochistic. You can learn more about this distinction on my page about Devotion.
Discover Yourself as a Female Sub – Safe, Sensitive & Professional
Explore Submission as a Masochistic Sub or Slave
Take your first step into the world of BDSM, submission and masochism. Guided by an experienced Dominant, you’ll have the opportunity to explore your curiosity in complete discretion, at your own pace and without pressure. Discover what truly excites you and gain your first authentic experiences in a safe, respectful and welcoming environment.
Why Do You Want to Submit as a Woman?
The desire to submit has many different faces. Perhaps you long to let go of responsibility for a while. Perhaps you enjoy the feeling of being guided. Or maybe you’re curious about the excitement of submission and masochistic experiences. There is no right or wrong—only your own personal journey. After your first experience, you might find yourself saying:
“For the first time in my life, I didn’t have to control anything.”
Or:
“I was finally able to simply feel—without thinking, without carrying the weight of responsibility.”
Many women live lives in which they constantly have to be strong—as mothers, professionals or partners. They long for a moment when someone else takes responsibility, allowing them to simply let go.
Others feel ashamed of being aroused by bondage, spanking or pain. They’ve carried these fantasies with them for years and wonder if they’re alone. You’re not.
Masochism is not a sign of weakness. On the contrary, it can be one of the bravest discoveries a woman makes about herself. It takes courage to explore your desires and trust the person you choose to share them with.
Whether you see yourself as a masochistic submissive or a
devoted slave
, I’ll meet you without judgment. You never have to answer questions you don’t want to answer. I listen first.
I won’t judge you.
I won’t ask what you’re not ready to answer.
I will listen.
BDSM for the Curious: Interested Women and Beginners
Trying BDSM for the first time should feel exciting, not intimidating. You’re under no obligation, and there’s no need to define yourself or commit to a relationship. This is simply an opportunity to explore your first experiences as a submissive.
Before we meet, we’ll discuss your boundaries together. Would you prefer to remain dressed or be naked? Would you like to include sexual activities, or not? Every session is tailored to your comfort level, and you decide what feels right for you.
You’re also welcome to meet me first without booking a session. In fact, I encourage it. It gives us the chance to get to know each other, answer your questions, and find out—without pressure—whether this is the right path for you.
Whether you’re completely new to BDSM or have been curious for years, this is a safe place to explore your fantasies and discover new experiences. In a respectful and protected environment, you can let go, knowing that I’ll be there to support you throughout the experience.
Set the boundaries:
- Dressed or naked?
- Sexual or non-sexual?
- Gentle or intense?
Who Will Be Your Dominant?
I’m the Dominant who will guide you through your experience. I live on Gran Canaria and originally come from Switzerland. BDSM has been part of my life for more than 30 years—not as a profession, but as a genuine passion.
Before dedicating myself fully to this path, I worked as a spiritual therapist. Today, I combine my experience of working with people with my passion for BDSM. What fascinates me is not simply intensity or pain, but the emotional depth that BDSM can create. That kind of experience is only possible through trust. That’s why I take my time, listen carefully, and shape every session around the woman in front of me.
Outside of BDSM, I love cooking, I’m a vegetarian, and I enjoy art, the peaceful atmosphere of Gran Canaria, and meaningful conversations. And of course, I love the world of rope bondage, restraints and impact play—always with respect, mindfulness, and mutual trust.
Bondage and Impact Play – What Can You Expect During Your Introduction?
During your introductory BDSM experience, you’ll explore both bondage and impact play in a safe, respectful environment designed for women interested in masochism. You’ll be bound with rope, using simple or more advanced positions depending on your flexibility, experience and personal preferences. I deliberately work with rope rather than cuffs because it adapts more naturally to the body and allows me to carefully monitor circulation throughout the session.
From beginning to end, I pay close attention to both your physical and emotional well-being. Your safety is always my highest priority.
Why bondage? Because being restrained allows many women to let go of control and focus entirely on themselves. Rope creates a protected space in which you can experience yourself more deeply. The feeling of vulnerability and surrender often helps you reach a place of heightened awareness and presence.
While you’re in bondage, you’ll also experience your first introduction to impact play. This may begin with very gentle sensations using feathers or a pinwheel and, if you wish, gradually progress to spanking or the whip. Together we’ll discover which level of intensity feels exciting and pleasurable for you. You may even experience your own personal subspace—a state in which everyday thoughts fade away and you’re fully immersed in the moment.
At higher levels of arousal, we may also use dildos or other sex toys if they fit your interests and the boundaries we’ve agreed on beforehand. If you’ve chosen to include sexual intimacy as part of your session, intercourse may also become part of the experience.
All you need to bring is your curiosity and a willingness to explore.
What Can You Expect?
- Complete discretion and confidentiality
- A free introductory phone or video call
- Rope bondage tailored to your experience and comfort
- Sensual touch and carefully guided impact play while restrained
- An introduction to over-the-knee spanking
- Your first experience with the whip, if you choose
- A caring, experienced and affectionate Dominant Care, reassurance and attentive aftercare throughout your experience
Is This Right for You?
- No previous BDSM experience is required
- A private one-to-one session tailored entirely to you
- No fixed time limit—you’ll never be rushed
- Open to adult women of all ages
- The only thing I ask is that you come as yourself: curious, honest and willing to have an open conversation
- Feeling nervous? You’re welcome to bring a female friend with you.
Sample Session Choreographies
I’m a Dominant who puts a great deal of thought into every session—both before it begins and after it ends. Especially when guiding a woman’s first experience, I often sketch out a simple choreography beforehand. It helps me maintain a clear direction while allowing the experience to unfold naturally.
During our initial conversation, I listen carefully. You may tell me that you want to let go of responsibility for a while, that you’re curious about pleasurable pain, or that you’ve always wondered what it feels like to be in bondage. Everything you share becomes part of my preparation.
I think about which BDSM equipment I’ll use, the atmosphere I want to create, and even the small details I’ll prepare—sometimes right down to the refreshments after the session. Every element contributes to creating an experience that feels complete and meaningful.
Of course, no session ever follows a script exactly. Improvisation is just as much a part of being a good Dominant as experience, intuition and empathy. That’s why my choreography isn’t a rigid plan—it’s a guide. It gives me the freedom to stay fully present with you while ensuring that the experience unfolds naturally.
My goal is never to work through a checklist, but to create an experience you’ll remember for a long time.
Sample Choreography – Letting Go
Plan: Restraints with light play and try to move towards impact play.
Equipment Prepared for the Session
- Rope for bondage
- Leather cuffs and carabiners, hooks
- Spreader bar
- Blindfold
- Feathers and fine toys
- Vibrators for the breasts and intimate areas
- Clamps
- Feathers and sensory toys
- Leather Whips
- Ball gag
- Pinwheel (Wartenberg wheel)
- Dildos
- Condoms
Preparation aside
- Non-alcoholic drinks, warm. Tea or a punch
- Plush blanket
- Chocolates
- Something earthy to eat: small raclette roll with cucumbers and pineapple
Before you is a more detailed sample choreography to give you an idea of what your introductory session could be like. This example includes sexual intercourse, which may be part of the experience if you choose it in advance. The session is described from my perspective as the Dominant. If you prefer to be surprised during your own session, you may want to skip the details below.
Show choreography 🜄
Sample Session – Letting Go
A Warm Welcome. A relaxed atmosphere. Tea or coffee.
“Please stand up and close your eyes.”
I slowly undress you, beginning with your upper body, my warm hands moving gently across your skin. I fasten your wrists behind your back with soft leather cuffs.
Warming Up Through Sensory Play
My hands glide gently across your back and shoulders. I deliberately avoid your nipples at first. My touch moves from your face down to your stomach. Then I remove the cuffs and attach your wrists to the ceiling anchor points, one hand at a time. I prepare the rope suspension calmly and without haste, gradually raising your arms—never fully stretched, but enough to create a gentle sense of tension.
Next comes a rope chest harness that embraces your upper body. As I tie the ropes, my arms brush softly against your breasts, this time “accidentally” touching your nipples. A kiss completes the moment.
Finally, I remove the rest of your clothing and attach a spreader bar to your ankles.
Surrender
My hands move slowly across your bound body. You experience surrender built on trust. Every part of your body receives my attention. My hands move between your legs before pausing. The stillness creates a moment in which a thought may arise:
“I can’t resist.”
You surrender yourself to the experience. Quietly, I whisper into your ear:
“You’re mine now.”
Arousal
I leave you standing on display while approaching you with feathers. They drift across your back, stomach, neck and legs before my warm hands return once more.
I rest my hands on your breasts, gently testing your reaction before increasing the intensity slightly. Moments later, my hands continue their journey, never lingering for too long. Your arousal belongs to the moment. Fulfilment comes only when I decide to allow it.
My bare body touches yours. From behind, I kiss your neck while my hands travel slowly along your sides. My lips continue down your back before my touch moves lower, always teasing, never rushing.
Nipple clamps are attached according to your reactions and comfort. A Wartenberg wheel lightly traces your skin, hinting at where it may travel next without always following through.
Complete Helplessness
You hear my calm voice. “Your body is going to be taken firmly.”
I raise your arms higher using the ropes, gently stretching your body. Supported securely, you become aware of my body close to yours. Beneath the blindfold, your other senses become sharper while everyday thoughts slowly fade away.
For a moment there is nothing to do except remain present and experience what unfolds.
Sexual Surrender
“Your arousal belongs to me. Your body follows my hands.”
Depending on the boundaries we agreed beforehand, the experience may include intimate stimulation using toys or my hands. Every movement is slow, attentive and guided by your reactions.
The rhythm changes as your excitement grows. Pleasure builds gradually while I observe your breathing, your body language and every response. My attention remains completely focused on you.
Your awareness narrows until your own desire becomes the centre of the experience.
Spread and Spanked
I release your arms from the ceiling and bind them behind your back. The spreader bar is removed before I gently guide you over a padded table.
Your legs are secured comfortably apart.
“You’ll be whipped… and then taken.”
Knowing what is coming heightens anticipation. You remain there, waiting. Gentle spanking begins before gradually increasing in intensity, always adapting to your responses and remaining within the limits we established together.
Whipping
A leather whip glides across your skin before the first gentle strokes begin. There is no hurry. The rhythm develops slowly, giving your body time to adjust. Intensity rises gradually, interrupted by pauses that allow your body to recover before the next wave begins. Everything follows your reactions and your limits.
Intercourse
If we have agreed beforehand that intercourse is part of your session, it becomes the natural continuation of everything that came before. You remain safely restrained while I guide and support your body. Every movement is deliberate, attentive and responsive to you. Throughout the experience I continue to observe both your physical and emotional wellbeing, adjusting the intensity whenever necessary.
Comfort and Aftercare
After the session, I help you back onto your feet and gently remove the ropes and harness. Whether you keep your blindfold on is entirely your choice. We settle together on the sofa. We remain close, talking—or simply enjoying the silence. If you drift off to sleep, I quietly prepare the food I’ve already made. The smell from the kitchen often becomes the first gentle step back into everyday life. Wrapped in a blanket, you join me again. I check your skin carefully, soothe any marks with aloe vera, and we share something to eat while talking about your experience. You might be sitting beside me, curled up in your blanket—or simply resting, knowing there’s nowhere else you need to be.
And perhaps, by then, you’ll already be looking forward to the next session.
What Women Say After Their First Session
Anonymous
“I spent weeks reading these pages without daring to get in touch. Eventually, I sent a message. The reply was calm, friendly and completely free of pressure. Three weeks later, I arrived for my first session. It was my very first BDSM experience—and exactly what I needed. I never imagined I could feel so safe in a BDSM setting. It was my first time, and it was simply amazing.”
Anonymous
“I was incredibly nervous about meeting a Dominant for the first time. From the very first moment, I was treated with warmth and kindness. We sat on the terrace first, giving me time to relax and settle in. He took all the time I needed, made me feel completely safe, and only then did we begin with some gentle play. Throughout the day, the intensity grew naturally, just as my desire did. It was an unforgettable experience.”
Your First Step Costs Nothing: A Conversation
There’s no obligation. We only decide whether—and how—a session might look once you feel comfortable, safe and ready. Take your time to get a sense of who I am. That’s the sensible way to begin.
This introductory experience is designed to guide you into the world of BDSM, one step at a time. What does it mean to be a submissive? How is a slave different from a masochist? What role do bondage, dominance and pleasurable pain play? And perhaps most importantly—what does it actually feel like in real life?
From the outside, BDSM often appears strange or extreme. Films and the media usually focus on leather, whips, or people being led on a leash like dogs. These images are built around stereotypes and represent only a small—and often distorted—part of the BDSM world.
BDSM can also be warm, respectful, deeply personal and profoundly fulfilling. It can create trust, build genuine closeness and help you discover new sides of yourself.
That’s the kind of BDSM I practice. And that’s exactly what I’d like to invite you to experience—without pressure, either online in a private video session or here with me at SubWelt on Gran Canaria.
How Do You Get Your Introductory Session?
Everything begins with a relaxed, no-obligation conversation on WhatsApp—whatever feels most comfortable for you, with or without video.
Simply send me a message. Your phone number will only ever be used for our communication. I’ll never contact you unexpectedly or without your permission. You’ll always be the one to take the first step.
Tell me about your questions, your curiosity or your fantasies, and together we’ll find out whether an introductory session is the right choice for you. If you’d feel more comfortable at your first meeting, you’re very welcome to bring a female friend with you.
The fee for your introductory session is €250.-.
Or simply send me a message using the contact form below.
