Mistress School – Courses to become a Dominatrix

Mistress School for Aspiring and Practicing Dominas

The BDSM School is dedicated to the art of dominance on both technical and emotional levels. This training is suitable for women who wish to establish themselves professionally as dominas, just as much as for women whose partners have expressed a desire to submit to them and now want to explore this role with confidence and sensitivity.
As an SVEB-certified instructor, I not only teach techniques but also provide didactically sound knowledge on how leadership, safety, and effectiveness can be learned together. It’s not just about securely binding or controlled spanking and whipping—emotional impact, your presence, and the feeling you carry when receiving the gift of leadership are equally important.
The individual parts of the training are freely selectable.
If you want to gain more self-confidence through the feeling of dominance first, you might start with the emotional part without immediately committing to techniques or equipment. The school is designed as an evening course; ideally, you would stay at SubWelt during this time to fully immerse yourself in the experience. The complete training can also be attended online. You are welcome to come alone, with a female friend is also welcome.

The Femdom Dominatrix School

The SubWelt on Gran Canaria
& the Online School for Mistresses

The Dominatrix School is located in the south of Gran Canaria, embedded in a setting that invites relaxation: spacious rooms, terraces for sunbathing, and a kitchen where delicious meals can be prepared during training days. You don’t need to worry about anything; this time is completely devoted to your development.
Bondage exercises are practiced on the large terrace when the weather is pleasant or not too hot, where stable fixing points are available for bindings. Impact plays take place indoors. A large living room and a bedroom are equipped for practical exercises. Whether you wish to privately further your training or pursue a professional career as a dominatrix—these spaces and the guidance are tailored to your path.

Parts of the Dominatrix Training

The training to become a dominatrix is individually tailored and can be fully customized to your needs or those of your partner. You decide which topics you want to delve into and at what pace. Even if certain topic requests are not listed here, you can bring them up anytime—BDSM covers a very wide range of topics, and the school finds appropriate approaches for most concerns. Simply let me know what is missing.

• Dominance Feeling
• Techniques and Safety
• Personal Hygiene and Emotional Stability
• Private or Professional Dominatrix?
• BDSM Plays – what to do with a slave?

Dominance Feeling and Dominant Appearance

Presence does not arise solely from clothing or external appearances, but from an inner sense of self-assurance that radiates outward. When a sub or slave surrenders to you, they entrust themselves to your control—a trust that you can consciously accept. This feeling of possession, as intense as it may sound, is also a form of responsibility: You decide how far you both will go together—whether more reservedly or with clearer intensity.
In either case, your inner sense of leadership remains crucial. During the training, you practice this interplay between surrender and acceptance, as well as your own impact. You receive continuous feedback on how you affect your counterpart and how you can purposefully deepen this influence. With the knowledge and effective inner feelings provided, you are also able to train your partner as your slave.

Techniques, Impact Play and Safety

Safety is the foundation for every technique you will learn here.

Bondage

You will learn the art of bondage—how to handle ropes, as well as the targeted use of handcuffs and the respective differences in effectiveness and safety. With solid basic knots, you will always be safe, even if you later venture into more complex bindings without risking cuts or injuries to arms or legs.
The realm of bondage is vast and can be deeply explored, but the fundamental techniques upon which everything builds remain the same.

Worship: Licking and Facesitting

What effect arises when a slave worships your feet? And how can this form of submission be intensified without becoming arbitrary? You will learn to give clear and dominant instructions so that these moments become genuinely enjoyable for you as well—such as allowing him to pamper you with his tongue.
As a dominatrix, you have extensive possibilities to teach your slave proper reverence, even in particularly intense positions like facesitting.

Edging and Chastity

Your toys belong to you—and with the right techniques, you learn how to maintain your slave’s arousal for hours, pushing it to the brink and then consciously bringing it back down. An orgasm is delayed through edging until your sub can barely contain himself before you decide whether and when to release him. Controlled milking, such as while bound to a pole, can be seamlessly integrated into play—afterward, he must still be entirely at your disposal.
You will practice this interplay directly with me during the practical units of the school.

CBT – Cock and Ball Torture

Of course, milking is nice when his cock and balls have to suffer. Slapping a cock lightly or hard needs some practice. You also learn to tie up a cock so that it is pulled to the floor by the rope. You whip it along its entire length. You learn striking techniques that increase the pleasure without causing real pain. A game ends when there is real pain.

Spanking, Caning and Whipping

The school provides detailed instruction on spanking: from the gentle preparation of the tissue to the intensification into more forceful strikes. You practice on the naked buttocks of your instructor and learn how to read the skin’s reactions correctly. Whether using a cane or a whip, there are different techniques of handling, which you will step-by-step master. You receive concrete guidance on how to safely flog over an extended period and how to progressively challenge your slave.
Similarly, impact play can be practiced deeply enough to bring your slave into what is known as the sub space: a nearly spiritual state of absolute submission.

Beeing a Dominatrix: Personal Hygiene and Emotional Stability

Beauty and Skills

A woman can look flawless—yet for most men, her skills and her own pleasure matter more than mere appearances. Many successful mistresses would not be described as particularly striking visually; their allure comes from what they do with their submissive partners. However, there are aspects of grooming that still play a role: some fetishes, like foot fetish, require well-maintained feet—regular pedicures belong here.
Saying “make my slaves lick and clean them” is too minimal, as many subs and slaves place significant value on aesthetics. Cleanliness remains the highest priority. In the school, we openly discuss topics such as vaginal flora, body hair, intimate hygiene, and appropriate clothing—elaborate leather and lace outfits are not necessarily required. What matters most is the impact you have.
Your personal care also includes nurturing your emotions. It’s important that you feel good while living this role. The men might be at your feet—yet could you still be missing something? How does this role affect you over time? We address these questions in the training with as much attention as the pure techniques.

Private or Professional Dominatrix?

Skills to new heights

Whether you plan to pursue a professional career as a dominatrix or use the skills in your private relationship with your partner, most parts of the training remain relevant for both scenarios. The skills taught extend far beyond purely technical aspects.
In a professional setting, you often encounter very successful clients who wish to submit to women—not out of naivety, but because many subs are highly reflective individuals, often holding responsible positions where this role reversal provides an important balance. As a professional dominatrix, you offer a service that is appropriately valued and compensated, even if it falls under the legal definition of prostitution, with no sexual intercourse typically occurring.
In a private setting, you have another equally meaningful opportunity: If your partner has entrusted you with the desire to submit to them, you can confidently and sensitively address this wish and lead your partnership into depths that might never have been reached without such openness. This trust is one they give you—and the training equips you to meet this trust with confidence without losing yourself in the process.

BDSM Plays – What to Play with your Slave?

Sub-wishes and Choreographies

What do subs really want—and how important is this for you as a dominatrix? This question is answered differently within the BDSM community. The Dominatrix School takes the stance that you should learn these skills to ensure a good experience—for both you and your partner. This means it should be tailored to suit both of you.
In a private setting, most couples do not have formal slave contracts; they agree on playtimes and return to equal footing outside of them. In a professional environment, you remain in the role of dominatrix without forming a relationship.
In both cases, it is worthwhile to take your sub’s wishes or fantasies seriously—this is how we approach it at the school. At the end of the day, we are all human beings with specific inclinations.

Sessions and Choreographies

BDSM is not a simple topic; it’s a game you play together and look forward to immensely. During the time between sessions, as a dominatrix, you may consider new things you would like to do with your submissive partner. These can range from small details to entire choreographies.
Once you know your sub’s fantasies, you have the perfect opportunity to vary them and develop them further. You will find a category of this in the SubWelt Blog.
At the Femdom School, you learn how to create a choreography for a BDSM session, with the necessary material to set goals. You also practice these sessions live.

Special Sub Requests

In the minds of many subs, entire scenarios of intense fantasies exist, which sometimes are expressed verbally. Responding to such a fantasy as a dominatrix does not undermine your authority; on the contrary, you learn what exactly your partner desires and can play with it by delaying or purposefully using these ideas.
Besides pet play, such as playing the role of a dog, there are much more intense fantasies. How you handle them always depends on your shared communication. Some ideas may seem unfamiliar or morbid, but an open exchange about what is appropriate for both of you remains crucial.

Rebelliousness and Bratty Behavior

Not every sub automatically follows your instructions. Some, known as “brat subs,” even wish to be pushed or punished. If a sub becomes rebellious, consequences can and should follow. In everyday life, many small moments can add extra spice to the game—such as inappropriate behavior at the dinner table, a single glance, and he already knows what to expect in the evening.
At the school, we discuss how BDSM can be gently integrated into everyday life through such moments.

How to Begin Your Training

You don’t need to know exactly which topics you want to delve into or how much time you will plan for them—these can be clarified together. Just reach out via WhatsApp and tell me what interests you about the Dominatrix School, or anything that has held you back from taking the next step. From an initial, non-binding exchange, it usually becomes clear whether a single afternoon, a full day, or several consecutive days would work best for you.
For completely anonymous contact, you can also use the chat button provided below on the left side of the screen.

Or contact us via email for an initial, non-binding exchange. You can use the form provided on our website to express your interest and start a conversation.